| Author | Message | ||
     Anonymous |
Hi: I just wanted to come back and give back some support to all the sufferers here.- I got involved in this forum on December 2004 and was depressed and worried with hairloss all through January-Feb, March and part of april I returned every day and checked for new posts of hope and solutions almost 4 times per day. I became obsessed with the topic and I fell into a depression.- I did everything I could to help me regain control over the sudden hairloss and the male pattern baldness that I have seen accentuate. I did the Scalp Excercises, I ate right, Took Vitamins, did excercises, read books about the topic, massaged my scalp - etc etc. I never wanted to use any chemicals. The more I tried , the more obsessed I got because I would see the problem Everyday- whenever I saw it in the mirror- I felt terrible! I didnt see any improvemnet.- No matter how hard I tried- Unconsciosly I wished with all my heart that my problems would go away- and I tried to deny that it was happening ending totally frustrated when realizing that this was a fact - I WAS LOSING MY HAIR- "accept it" wasnt my favorite phrase.! After a while I got involved in a large project at work , which consumed most of my day and free time and I just DIDN'T HAVE TIME to get obsessed with my hair anymore.- (No matter - I still kept on taking my vitamins, doing some inverted routines, excercise,SEs etc. and eating right.)- I just made this a habit but didnt give it the thought i used to) Then I made a self compromise to not go back to this forum because it became an obsessive habit that generated worry and anxiety- and it just took too much time (which I didnt have). As I got more and more involved in the projects I had, I stopped thinking about myself, and I stopped caring so much about my hair loss , and didnt care anymore if I looked perfect or not. Anyways- Obsessing about it made it worse.- Whatever method you use- results wil take SO MUCH TIME- so- best as you can choose a path and then get BUSY so that you let it work and dont fixate on your problem...Keeping Busy will let nature work as you go on with your life,! It's been a while and I can say I notice that I see almost no fallen hairs at all. - If so maybe 1 or 2 . The texture of my hair is pretty good and I see my hairline is ok, I could say its better than it was back in January, but I just dont want to pull back and count hairs and examine if I have had more or less., I dont know if I had a TELOGEN EFFLUVIUM and comming back from it or if the SEs worked along with the vitamins and the rest of MY APPROACH - . The thing is that as I got busier, and the hair problem seemed "OKAY"( more good hair days than bad-) I stopped worrying as much about it.- Deep inside I said to myself "Can it be that my situation is not as bad?- My multilevel approach is working in some way?- Oh Please God - Let this be correct.-"... So I stopped coming to this site, stopped posting. - I realized that most posts are of people with the LATENT problem.- People who do find a solution that works, stop hanging around these places- Why should they bother ?- I just lost interest and had more important things to do and care about. What's the Moral of the story?= Dont get discouraged to find that most Internet posts are from Sad, Negative, worried , anxious , concerned people that have the hair issue as a priority . There are very good chances that this will not domain your life, things can improve and NOT MANY RETURN TO TELL ABOUT IT.- I only read about people's PROBLEMS with little success stories - It's obvious that those people have gone on with their lives and away from these forums. I dont know if my hairloss was temporary or if my hair recovery is temporary or if it just slowed down.- The thing is - If I dont have the problem I have nothing to do here and if I ever posted before- you will only read the Negative and sad and worried comments I made during my crisis... This is why I returned today - Just to make the statement- I felt it useful to contribute and Help others that suffer now what I suffered back then... I hope you understand my point.- People that are in a hole, sometimes feel its forever, there's no way out and its all bad. When the night is darkest - it means that soon the morning will come and the early sun will be rising. My Story is true. | ||
| Anonymous |
Amen to that... | ||
| Colm F |
Thanks man, Good to hear some balanced positivity for a change! | ||
| anonymous#1 |
Just came back to visit after no posts for 2 months ... In the lines of keeping and understanding the psychology of human reasoning - and the TRAGEDY one suffers with their own losses. I want to share a truth that we often forget which is an excerpt from a book I found: "Yes, I know, you are certain that your friends are becoming your enemies; that your grocer, garbage man, clergyman, sister-in-law, and your dog are all of the opinion that you have put on weight, that you have lost your touch, that you have lost your mind; furthermore, you are convinced that everyone spends two-thirds of every day commenting on your disintegration, denigrating your work, plotting your assassination. "- (NOTICING YOUR HAIRLOSS)-" I promise you: Nobody is thinking about you. They are thinking about themselves--just like you." I know its hard to assimilate but its sort of true- isnt it? You are probably more concerned with YOURSELF and YOUR "FLAWS" (apparent or real) than with any other person's defects- even if they are far worse than yours. - "IT's not the same you say ....You dont understand ...it's different in my case...."- I DO UNDERSTAND.- It's different because its happening to YOU...but other people dont hink about YOU as much as YOU DO... THEY ARE MUCH MOR IMPORTANT TO THEMSELVES. Understanding this TRULY, can lift a burden from your concerns. NOBODY IS PERFECT.- EVERYONE LACKS SOMETHING, EVERYONE HAS A PROBLEM OF THEIR OWN... YOU ARE NOT ALONE.Believe it. LIVE IT | ||
| Bon |
ok then. Now that we have disposed of our insecurity problem, lets move on to aesthetics: Did you have any improvement from your initial condition? For how long and how consistently have you been on the SE program? | ||
| Tom Hagerty |
I shouldn't comment on Anonymous#1's statement because it's heartfelt and meant to be helpful to people who are suffering from hair loss. But it does sound a bit like the artificial language of pop psychology: "Give yourself permission to feel good about yourself." "Allow yourself to experience love. You are not alone in this world." I realize I should have used more capital letters the way pop psychologists usually do. The point is that when a young guy sees his reflection in a store window and realizes with a shock he's going bald - all the pop psychology in the world is not going to halt his sinking feeling, his depression, and even his anger. But maybe that's just me remembering how I felt when I was 19. Maybe the message of Anonymous#1 will be helpful to some people. | ||
| Anonymous |
Tom, you are right. All that pop pyschology bull shite doesnt help worth a damn. But I do believe the SE's do. |
